Suffering, free will, and why God has not ended it yet
“God is not watching from a distance. The shortest verse in the Bible is John 11:35: Jesus wept. That is not a God watching from a safe distance. That is a God who gets in it with us.”
There are no easy answers here. But there are honest ones. And honest is what this conversation deserves.
Every honest conversation about faith arrives here eventually. You can talk about love and belonging and a God who runs toward people, and it all sounds beautiful until someone in the room has buried a child. Or watched a marriage fall apart. Or sat in a hospital waiting room for news that changed everything. And then the question comes out, the one that has been there all along: if God is good, and God is powerful, why does any of this happen?
Notice where that question usually gets asked. Not in a classroom. It comes out at a kitchen table at eleven at night, or over a meal somebody brought over because they did not know what else to do. The hardest question anyone has about God almost always gets asked with food nearby and one chair empty. That is worth remembering, because it tells you what kind of answer it deserves.
This is not a question to be managed or explained away. It is the most important question in this series, and it deserves a real answer. Not a perfect one, because no answer to suffering is ever perfect. But an honest one.
Philosophers call it the problem of evil, or sometimes the Epicurean Paradox. It goes roughly like this: if God is willing to prevent evil but not able, then he is not all-powerful. If he is able but not willing, then he is not good. If he is both able and willing, why is there still evil? If he is neither, why call him God?
At first glance this sounds like a checkmate. But the argument contains two assumptions worth examining: what “all-powerful” actually means, and what love actually requires.
On power: even an all-powerful God cannot create a triangle with four sides, because the moment it has four sides it is no longer a triangle. The definition of the thing sets the limits. In the same way, God cannot create a love that is forced, because the moment love is forced it is no longer love. Free will is not a failure of God's power. It is the necessary condition for the thing he actually wanted, which was not compliance, but love.
Here is a thought experiment. Imagine a world where God prevents every harmful choice the moment someone makes it. A child reaches for a hot stove and their hand stops before they touch it. A man raises his fist and finds he cannot move. A nation chooses war and inexplicably halts. In that world, no one is ever hurt by anyone else's choices.
But in that world, no one is actually free. Every choice is monitored and overridden the moment it threatens harm. And if freedom is that conditional, it is not really freedom. It is the appearance of freedom with an invisible leash.
God chose to create a world with real freedom, which meant real consequences. That is not God being absent. It is God being faithful to the thing he decided was worth having: genuine relationship with beings who could genuinely choose him. The suffering in the world is not what God wanted. It is the cost of a world where love is real.
This is the harder question. Granted that free will explains why suffering exists, why has God not simply ended the whole broken experiment and started over? He is powerful enough. He has promised to do it eventually. Why not now?
2 Peter 3:9 gives an answer that is easy to read past: “The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” God is waiting. Not because he has forgotten. Because people are still coming home. Every day that the door remains open is a day someone else walks through it.
Think about the prodigal son story again. If the father had locked the door after his son left, the son could not have come home. The open door costs the father something. He has to live with the son's absence, with the pain of watching someone he loves make choices that hurt them. That waiting is not weakness. It is love holding the door open as long as possible.
There is also this: we are not outside observers of the suffering. Most of the suffering in the world is caused by human choices, and we are all part of that web. When we ask why God does not end it, part of the honest answer is that ending it would mean ending us, at least as we currently are. The process of healing the world runs through us, not around us.
None of this means God is unmoved by suffering. The shortest verse in the Bible is John 11:35: “Jesus wept.” He was standing outside the tomb of his friend Lazarus, surrounded by grieving people, and he wept. Not because he did not know what he was about to do. Because he was fully present in the pain of the moment. That is not a God watching from a safe distance. That is a God who gets in it with us.
The cross is the fullest expression of this. God did not watch humanity suffer from a comfortable remove and occasionally send help. He entered the suffering himself. He absorbed the worst of what a broken world can do to a person. He knows what it feels like from the inside.
That does not make grief smaller. But it means you are not grieving alone. And it means the God asking you to trust him through the hard parts has walked them himself.
There is a question underneath the free will answer that deserves its own moment: okay, but is God going to do something about it?
The Bible's answer is yes. Not eventually in a vague, hand-wavy sense. Specifically yes. Revelation 21 describes a day when God himself comes to live among his people and “wipes every tear from their eyes.” The language is personal. Not a policy announcement. A Father kneeling down. And then: no more death. No more mourning. No more crying. No more pain. The text says the old order of things “has passed away,” past tense, as if it is already done from where John is standing.
Isaiah 25 paints the same picture centuries earlier: a feast on a mountain, prepared for all peoples, and death swallowed up forever. Not managed. Not reduced. Gone.
This is not wishful thinking grafted onto the end of the story. It is the destination the whole story is moving toward from the beginning. The garden that was lost, the intimacy that was broken, the world that was supposed to be good and then wasn’t, all of it is being restored. Not to a lesser version of what it was. To what it was always meant to be.
That ending matters for how you read everything in the middle. Including your own life right now. The suffering you are carrying, or watching someone you love carry, is real. It is not minimized by the ending. But it is not the final word either. And the God who is moving the whole story toward that morning is the same God who, in the middle of it all, weeps at tombs and sits with people who are not okay.
He knows. He is not looking away. And he has a plan.
John 11:32–35 (NIV)
When Mary reached the place where Jesus was and saw him, she fell at his feet and said, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.” When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled. “Where have you laid him?” he asked. “Come and see, Lord,” they replied. Jesus wept.
2 Peter 3:9 (NIV)
The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.
Romans 8:18, 28 (NIV)
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us… And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
Revelation 21:3–4 (NIV)
And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Look! God's dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”
Isaiah 25:6–8 (NIV)
On this mountain the Lord Almighty will prepare a feast of rich food for all peoples, a banquet of aged wine, the best of meats and the finest of wines. On this mountain he will destroy the shroud that enfolds all peoples, the sheet that covers all nations; he will swallow up death forever. The Sovereign Lord will wipe away the tears from all faces; he will remove his people's disgrace from all the earth. The Lord has spoken.
Take time with these questions on your own, or bring them into conversation with someone you trust.
Each of these is meant to be simple enough to actually do. Pick one, or try all three. The point is to take one step, not to be perfect.
Bring your real question
What is the most honest question you have about God and suffering? Write it down. Then bring it to God directly, not to get an answer, but to practice the honesty this kind of faith requires.
Sit with someone in pain
Find someone this week who is carrying something hard. Sit with them in it. Not to explain or fix, just to be present. That is what a God who weeps at tombs looks like with skin on.
Read John 11
Read the full story of Lazarus. Notice that Jesus wept even though he knew what he was about to do. What does that tell you about how God relates to your grief right now?