Four weeks on how disciples get made. One chapter a week, one honest conversation, and one question running underneath all of it: who is sitting in the next seat?
People clapped. Somebody took a picture. Here is what nobody tells you about that Sunday: you are now carrying something that was never meant to stop with you. Not because you owe anybody. Because that is simply how this works. Somebody sat down with you. Somebody made room. Now there is a seat next to you, it is empty, and it has somebody’s name on it.
Here is the commitment. Once a week you sit down with someone from House to House and talk. Before each of those meetings you read one chapter. It will take fifteen or twenty minutes. That is the entire ask.
Read the chapter first, then meet. If you show up without reading, the conversation turns into a lecture, and nobody wants that. You can read it on a lunch break, in a parking lot, before bed.
This is not a class you pass. There is no test, no certificate, nobody is going to put you on a stage at the end. Everything in this guide is something you start doing this week, at your current level of knowledge, with the people already in your life.
Write down five real people who are already in your life and who are not part of a church. Add to that list every week. Week one you write it. Week two you pray through it by name. Week three you mark the ones who would say yes to helping with something. Week four you circle the one you are going to keep pursuing.
If you get to the end of these four weeks and that page is still blank, we did not accomplish anything, no matter how good the conversations were.
Not how somebody else lives them out. You. In your neighborhood, at your job, with your family.
Intentional hospitality by practicing the BLESS rhythm.
Read the chapter → Week TwoDaily meaningful time with God through listening, discernment, and rest.
Read the chapter → Week ThreeA regular rhythm of service to others, done next to people rather than at them.
Read the chapter → Week FourLearning to teach a biblical worldview, and walking someone toward baptism.
Read the chapter →That is the only prep. Everything you need for the conversation is in the chapter, including the questions, so you will already know what is going to be asked. That is on purpose. Think about your answers ahead of time.
The RPM check-in
About five minutes. Four areas, one honest share for each. This is how we start, every single time, before anything spiritual gets discussed.
Looking back
What actually happened with last week’s commitments. Did you eat with somebody? Did the daily worship time happen, and how many days? This is the shortest part, but it is the application of what you committed to.
The discussion
The questions from the chapter. This is most of the hour. It is a conversation, not a quiz, and there are no right answers to hit.
What you are doing this week
Before you leave, you say out loud what you are committing to.
Four areas, one honest share for each. About five minutes, every single time, before anything spiritual gets discussed.
R
Relational
How are things with the people closest to you? Spouse, kids, roommates, parents, friends.
P
Physical
How is your body doing? Sleep, food, movement, pain, health.
M
Mental
What is taking up space in your head right now? Work, money, worry, anything.
S
Spiritual
Where are you with God this week? Close, distant, confused, angry, quiet. All of those are real answers.
The risk with something like this is that four good conversations happen, everybody feels encouraged, and then eight weeks later nothing is different. That is the normal outcome for this kind of thing, and pretending otherwise would be dishonest.
So here is what actually happens next. You keep eating with people, you keep your daily time, you serve on the fourth Saturday, and you keep working on the person you circled on your names page. These are not four weeks of curriculum. They are the rhythm, and now you know what it is.
Once a quarter the whole network stops and resets together. Everybody pulls out their names page, everybody says out loud how the four practices are actually going, and everybody adjusts. It is not a report card. It is the same RPM check-in you have been doing, just with more people in the room. You come to that. Every time. That is the follow-up.
And between now and then, the person you meet with is still around. This is a network, not a program. Nobody graduates out of anybody’s life.
Covered in these four weeks
These come later, so start praying about how God will use you
Those last three are real, and they are coming, but they are not a checklist for you to start on this month. They grow out of the first five, and they show up when the first five have been true in your life for a while. Nobody is behind. This is not a ladder and there is no schedule.
Accountability
We notice who is missing and take responsibility to pursue one another relationally. Leaders model vulnerability and consistency while everyone participates according to capacity.
Growth
Every person is invited to take their next step toward Jesus and toward others. Growth is measured by faithfulness and obedience, not knowledge alone.
Hospitality
Shared meals are central to who we are. Every gathering is intentionally welcoming. Hospitality extends beyond meals into how we listen, include, and care.
Service
A church does not exist without service. We serve alongside our neighbors, not just for them. Service is relational, humble, and responsive, not performative.
Multiplication
We expect and celebrate disciples, leaders, groups, and microchurches to multiply over time. Simple, reproducible rhythms are prioritized over complex systems.
There is a seat next to you. It is still empty. Go find out whose it is.
Begin Week 1: Eat What They Put in Front of YouPart of the House to House Network · A Place at the Table